'I almost joined the military, but...' is a weird flex and it's not OK

Opinion
Recruits take the oath of enlistment before a NFL game in Arizona, November 2018. Photo: Alun Thomas/U.S. Army Recruiting

Jacob Wohl, noted conspiracy theorist, internet fraudster, and contender for the youngest person ever to operate a bogus hedge fund, recently promised via Twitter that he would join the military. That is, he'll join the military, "probably the Army," if President Trump attacks Iran. He even specified that he would enlist within ten days.

The ten day timeframe would itself be laughable if it weren't for the fact that children born on September 11, 2001 are now eligible to enlist and possibly go to Afghanistan. So, if Wohl actually did follow through on his promise, he would conceivably still get to fight after spending a few months in poolee status, boot camp, MOS training, etc.

That said, Wohl will never enlist, war with Iran or no war with Iran. Is the hypothetical war with Iran somehow more worthy than the ones we've been fighting against the Taliban, Iraq, ISIS, Al Qaeda in the Arabian Peninsula, Al Qaeda in Iraq, or Al Qaeda original flavor for nearly two decades, i.e. nearly the whole time Wohl has been alive?


Wohl is more famous, or at least internet famous, than the average person in the "I almost joined the military, but" club, but he's only one of millions of members. People as prominent as HUD Secretary Ben Carson and former presidential candidate Hillary Clinton "almost" joined the military, but for quirks of fate.

But famous people aren't the only ones in the coulda, woulda, shoulda club. Almost every service member or veteran has encountered this phenomena. Whether in your hometown, a park, or a bar, if you end up in a conversation with a stranger and mention that you are or were in the military, someone will make the remarkable confession that he (and it's almost always a he) almost joined the military...but…

He had a knee injury from being a star athlete in high school. This one is great, because it combines studliness with a complete lack of studliness, as if they cancel each other out. He's saying that the reason he didn't risk an actual combat injury is that a gridiron injury prevented him from doing so. Sure, Uncle Rico. Somehow that debilitating injury didn't keep you from Instagramming that 5K finish last week.

He went to college instead. This one is great, because it simultaneously reveals that person's belief that everyone in the military is an uneducated moron with admitting a complete lack of actual research into the military. That poser could have gone to college before the military, after the military, and even during the military. If this person had stepped into a recruiter's office just once, as anyone who "almost joined the military" could have done, he'd know that service and college go together like peas and carrots. Speaking of peas and carrots, even Forrest Gump got a college degree before going into the military, and he had an IQ of 75.

His parents didn't want him to. Really? You would have been a Green Beret or SEAL, but your mommy said no? Just think about that one.

He would have if there was a real war, like World War II or something, as if the military has just been pulling its pud for the past 20 years. When it's obvious that the country will be invaded if you don't serve, or if the draft forces you to serve, then service in itself isn't a differentiator. It's what you're expected to do. It's like saying, "If a criminal ever robbed me, then of course I'd call the police." Thanks for your civic-mindedness, Captain America.

Just like character is what you do when no one is looking, true service is what one does when your own ass doesn't depend on the outcome.

Perhaps people feel compelled to come up with these excuses because this country idolizes military service so much.

Military service is an important, perhaps even the most important, form of service, but it isn't the only one. Human beings naturally desire validation, and if the only means of getting recognition is to carry a gun, or even to "almost" carry a gun, they will latch onto that.

If you really want to impress me, tell me about the time you were a volunteer firefighter, or even volunteering at a senior center. Hell, talk about the foster dog you took in. That impresses me far more than your fake story about how you almost joined the Marines, except you wanted to go to college. I'm a Marine. I went to college. So did a whole lot of others, not to mention those in the Army, Navy, and Air Force.

Cops are important, firemen are important, and teachers are important. But beyond the obvious service professions, there are so many ways to leave this country and this world better than you found it. Talk about those. And as long as we're at it, we should perhaps spend a small fraction of the time we spend honoring the military at every possible opportunity to salute a few other types of service.

Perhaps then we wouldn't have so many saying they coulda, woulda, shoulda been in the military.

Carl Forsling is a senior columnist for Task & Purpose. He is a Marine MV-22B pilot and former CH-46E pilot who retired from the military after 20 years of service. He is the father of two children and a graduate of Boston University and The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. Follow him on Twitter @CarlForsling

In this March 12, 2016, file photo, Marines of the U.S., left, and South Korea, wearing blue headbands on their helmets, take positions after landing on a beach during the joint military combined amphibious exercise, called Ssangyong, part of the Key Resolve and Foal Eagle military exercises, in Pohang, South Korea. (Associated Press/Yonhap/Kim Jun-bum)

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