I can’t remember the first Star Wars movie I saw, but I do remember going to the theater at midnight to watch one of the prequels in college. As a mom of three boys, we are all about Star Wars in this house. We have gone to see the more recent movies in the theater and have loved them all. We were so excited when Galaxy’s Edge at Disneyland opened up.
There are so many things you can gain from the Star Wars universe. From the characters to the storylines, there is so much the universe can teach us. As military spouses, we have our own challenges, and Star Wars can offer some advice.
Here is what Star Wars can teach military spouses, no matter what we are going through.
1. You can keep going, even when things get too hard
Rey is persistent despite the challenges she encounters along the way. She keeps working towards her goals, no matter how difficult they might be or how many people tell her to give up, even if that person is Luke Skywalker himself.
As military spouses, we need to keep working on our goals, whether those goals are working through school, getting through a deployment, or trying to find new friends at our duty station.
2. Trust your gut
Feelings are a big part of using The Force. When Obi-Wan Kenobi is training Luke Skywalker, he tells him to “stretch out with his feelings” to connect to the force. . . basically, trust your gut.
In military life, trusting your gut is a good idea. Trust yourself when making new friends, finding a new place to live, or when you should be walking away from a sticky situation. Your gut is usually spot-on; you just need to listen to it.
3. You can’t go wrong with good friends
You can easily see how close Han Solo and Chewbacca are. They watch out for each other, feel for each other, and their friendship has lasted decades. While Han is a human and Chewie is a Wookiee, they come from different worlds, but they are still able to connect to each other.
Making good friends during military life is a must. We can connect with other spouses, encourage one another, and walk this military road side by side. We can be different people from different places and still build lasting friendships with one another.
4. Somethings in life are pretty annoying; you have to deal with them anyway
Jar Jar Binks is a Gungan and annoys just about everyone. C-3PO even says to R2-D2, “You know, I find that Jar Jar creature to be a little odd.” However, he has a role in the story as he is able to help bridge the gap between the different cultures of Naboo.
At first glance, our new duty station might annoy us. Everything about the place might drive us crazy. But if we try to find things to like about where we live, we just might find the good in our situation.
5. We are strong and can get things done
Princess Leia might be a princess, but she doesn’t spend her days walking around and waving at her subjects. She is strong, works hard, and in the end becomes a general. She also doesn’t sit back as she leads the operation to rescue Han Solo from Jabba the Hutt.
Military spouses don’t have to be confined to traditional roles just because we married our service member. We know how to get things done, and we can work hard to achieve whatever goals we might have. We don’t have to sit back either.
6. Listen to those who have been there before
Yoda, a legendary Jedi Master, is small yet wise. He trains Jedi and always has wisdom for those who will listen. He knows a lot about the force and what it takes to be a Jedi.
We should be looking for the “Yoda” in our military world: The spouses that have been doing this a long time that have wisdom and advice for us. They have been there before and have a lot to offer everyone else.
7. Don’t dwell on the negative
In Star Wars, the Dark Side is fueled by emotions such as anger, hatred, greed, jealousy, and fear. We see this in Anakin’s transformation to Darth Vader. The Dark Side pulled him in.
As military spouses, we are not always going to be happy with what is going on. However, dwelling on the negative, being petty and angry at people, and letting greed take over will just bring us down. Working through those emotions is better than letting them fester and take over and will keep us away from our own dark sides.