We know that there are stereotypes about everyone in the military. There are ones for each branch, for every job, and for those who are enlisted and officers. And of course, there are stereotypes for spouses as well. Enlisted spouses and officers’ spouses know that there are certain ideas and myths that come with the territory. But dang, some of those stereotypes get annoying after a very, very short time. These are some of those common stereotypes about enlisted spouses. . . and how it feels to field those comments:
1. When someone thinks you married for the money. And you’re like, “Have you seen the paychecks?”
2. When people think that “enlisted” automatically means “uneducated”. . . but your spouse has (at least) one degree.
3. When people think that “enlisted spouse” automatically means “uneducated”. . . and you have degrees of your own.
4. When folks assume you married young.
5. When someone asks you when your spouse will become an officer. . . and don’t understand that some service members want to stay enlisted.
6. When folks think that officers’ spouses are worthy of careers and career opportunities, while enlisted spouses should be happy with whatever opportunities present themselves.
7. When people automatically assume that enlisted families that need WIC or have a hard time making ends meet just need to make better decisions with their money.
8. When people think that your drive, ambition, or dreams are limited by the rank of your spouse.
By J.G. Noll