Your spouse gets orders, and you go through the PCS process. Now you are settled in your new home, boxes are put away, and you are itching to get out there and make this place feel like home.

What is one of the most important things you should do when you PCS somewhere new???

Get out there and make new friends!

Yes, this is one of the most important things you can do at a new duty station, work towards finding your people. For some, this can happen rather quickly, and for others, it takes more time but that is okay.

At some duty stations, you might be able to make friends right away, and at others, you might need to try a little harder. The important thing is getting out there and trying to actually meet people. The more people you meet, the greater the chance you will find your tribe.

Here are a few ideas to help you get out there and meet other people:

  • Use your kids– That’s right, if you have kids, you have one way to get out there and meet people. Go to playgroups, see if you have a local MOPS, or just take your kids out to the park on a regular basis. If you do, you will be sure to meet other parents, and could possibly make friends that way.
  • FRG– The FRG in the Army and Navy, the Key Spouse Program in the Air Force, the Family Readiness Program in the Marine Corps, and the Work-Life Program in the Coast Guard, isn’t always what you want it to be, but can be a good place to meet people when you are new. You can connect with other spouses who might be going through a deployment with you in the future. Sure, you might head to an FRG meeting and never want to go back, but why not at least try to go to one to see? You never know who you might meet there.
  • Meet your neighbors– If you live in military housing, or even if you don’t, it is a good idea to meet your neighbors. They can not only be a source of friendship but you can depend on one another. Sometimes you might need help getting your kids off the bus, or need to borrow a small item. Be friendly when you see people out and about and make conversation when you can.
  • Spouse clubs- There are many different types of clubs at or around your military installation. From book clubs to spouse socials. See if any of them fit your schedule and try a few. If you pick clubs that revolve around something you already like to do, you know you will have at least something in common with the people you meet there. A great starting off point for a new friendship.
  • MilSpouseFest- See if MilSpouseFest is coming near you, then make plans to go. MilSpouseFest is a great way to get out and meet new people at your duty station. With fun games, amazing speakers, and many ways to connect with others, you can’t go wrong. Sign up today, for a day of fun, or a night out.

Where is the first place you look for new friends when you PCS somewhere new???