It is always a good idea to work on yourself. From health and wellness to getting more organized. As military spouses, there is a lot we can’t control. We can’t pick when or even where we will PCS in most cases. We can’t stop a deployment, or speed it up when it gets too hard. But there are things we can do to improve our milspouse life. Here are 5 of them:

1) Make Friends

Friends are going to get you through the more difficult parts of military life. Friends are going to keep you entertained and help you stay busy. Friends are a must during military life.

2) Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

There can sometimes be a lot to complain about when it comes to military life. Things are not always going to go as smoothly as you want them to. But it is best to not sweat the small stuff.

Try to let things go. Give people the benefit of the doubt. And work towards finding peace in your life, vs focusing on every little thing that isn’t going according to plan.

This doesn’t mean you have to ignore issues you are having, but sometimes you have to let things go. And letting those little things go is going to make for a better life.

3) Don’t Be Afraid to Get Involved

Whether it is the FRG or another type of group. Don’t be afraid to get involved. Sure, FRGs have gotten a bit of a bad rap, but you still might have a good experience. And how will you know how it will go unless you try.

Watch what is going on in your local community. Check for volunteering opportunities. See what you can do to get involved in your local military and even civilian communities.

4) Remember That Nothing is Certain, and Things Always Change

One of the more difficult parts of military life is dealing with disappointment. You have something planned, and then it gets canceled. You hope you can move to a certain place, and then there is no change. You assume the deployment will be over in March and it isn’t over until May.

While you can’t 100% prevent any disappointment you will feel during military life, you can remember that nothing really is certain and things will always change when it comes to the military.

When you hear a homecoming date, remember it can change. Be cautious of where you might be PCS until there are actual orders, and even then, know sometimes they change. Always write your plans in pencil and know that a family activity might have to change at the last minute.

5) Plan to Attend a MilSpouseFest Event

Here at MilSpouseFest, we offer 14 events per year. You should try to attend if you see we are coming to a duty station near you. At MilSpouseFest you will be able to listen to a keynote speaker, meet other spouses from your area, and enjoy prizes, food, and lots of fun. Check out our 2020 lineup here.