In the military, dating has garnered somewhat of a dubious reputation. Between fear of falling for a mooch, long distance with limited contact, and all the normal struggles that come with any relationship, sometimes you’re left wondering if it might not be easier to get a dog, because she will love you no matter what.

But still, you try to find love, and while some succeed, others get their hearts broken. So we reached to you, the Task & Purpose readers, for the good, the bad, and the ugly military relationship stories, and here’s what you said.

Sometimes things just aren’t meant to be.

Other times, dating can be a total nightmare.

Sometimes you just need to be single.

But other stories have happy endings.